Even if you been on the planet for 5 minutes you know what rainbows and pride mean and if you don’t…I am talking about those words that few people dare to discuss publically. Homosexuality, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Transvestite. All the words that make some straight people cringe and/or make fun. Not I.
This last week Elysia made the decision to inform me that she is gay…yes…she likes other women. She told me as if this was going to be some sort of deep, life changing moment for me. It wasn’t. She might as well have told me that she was going to change her hairstyle because I love my daughter unconditionally and whether or not she chooses to love a man or she chooses to love and share her life with a woman makes no difference to me. The fact remains that she is still my daughter. As a mother my only wish for my child is the same wish that I made when I learned I was carrying her…that she be happy and healthy.
Now if I can get her to eat more vegetables…
A note to my daughter…
I think Pink wrote the words that I wish to say to you…
I love you Sissy.
PS from Elysia:
Coming out was so much easier than I ever thought it would me; besides a few questions about how I knew and things like that, mom really is right…It wasn’t the big deal that I had psyched myself up for. I honestly was terrified; even though I was never really sure what I was scared for. BUT! I have amazing parents and friends who support me 100%. I am very lucky, and am thrilled that this whole thing was much easier than I anticipated. When I say that I lost sleep over how to tell my family, I am not even kidding. I had borderline insomnia for weeks. I am quite pleased that my sleep pattern has returned to its regularly scheduled programing!
This is going to sound a lot like a local beauty queen trying to win the crown, but I really hope future generations can live in a world where they are not afraid to be themselves; where being gay, lesbian, bi, straight, or transgender is all normal and accepted. I’m thankful that my experience was a very joyful one, but I know so many people whose experiences were completely the opposite, and it is heartbreaking. I hope that if someone close to you had enough guts to admit to you that they are gay, you would have only the most love in your heart for them, just like my family has for me.
Also, I find it ironic that Saturday night was the first time a guy that I had never met before bought me a drink at a bar. Go figure, right?! 😉 But seriously – I couldn’t be happier with a life where I am finally confident in the person that I am, and that I have people close to me that have my back no matter what. ♥
Xoxo – Elysia